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INTUTITION IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR KNOWLEDGE

By Russell Irving

How many times have you had a sneaking suspicion that something was going on behind your back? – None, you say? Because, you are not paranoid? – Well, you do not have to be paranoid to feel that someone is doing something and not letting you know about it. Especially, if that someone is a spouse.

Many people, if being honest, would own up to, at least once in their married life, believing that their husband or wife had done something that they should not have done. Whether it was buying something that they agreed not to, or bunking work so that they could be at the head of a line for a super-duper store sale, or not really visiting a friend, so that they could go to the race track, or, even worse, hooking up with someone for a sexual affair.

There are times when we can honestly attempt to justify our hunch simply because our spouse's past actions could logically lead us to it. – For example, if our spouse was a compulsive gambler, we could easily explain our gut feeling that they did not really lose their wallet while at work. But, instead blew through their money, your money, at the slots. - Or, if they once had an affair, albeit years ago, that they could not be resisting the obvious allure of new, hot co-worker.

Yet, for all of our smarts and past experiences with our spouse, we are, in fact, not able to know what we do not know. Hmmm. Did that come out correctly?

What I meant to say is that our hunches are not substitutes for the truth. Certainly, there will be occasions when we will be right on! But would you wish to be judged that way by your spouse, parents, friends, or co-workers? I think not!

Bottom line, our intuition is not a substitute for knowledge. And, every time that we treat our spouse differently because we think that they did us wrong... And, every time that we verbally accuse them of something, only to be proven wrong... For each of these times, we chisel away at some of the foundation of our marriage. In such a way that it is never truly repaired.

So, the next time that you believe that you know more than you truly do, why not find out. And in a nice way? Or, sometimes, even better, just dismiss your hunch until there there is actual evidence to prove it correct?

'Nuff said!

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